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How to cope when your friend writes better than you?

Ever felt jealous of your friend who seems to be much more talented at writing then you? Ever questioned your own skills after reading what they had written? Ever wondered if you can ever get to their level, and how? If yes, then this article is for you.

Being in this situation might not feel so great, but it is a blessing in disguise. Here is why:

  • You see area for improvement.
  • You know what exactly work on.
  • You can observe that person’s techniques.
  • You can ask that person for help directly.
  • It’s a great way to motivate yourself to level up.

If you feel envious about your friend writing better than you, it’s probably because you don’t believe that you can achieve that level of skill.

If this is the case, ask yourself why you doubt yourself right now.

Maybe they are older than you, or more experienced, or have been writing in your chosen language since ever. If yes, then you can’t blame yourself for the fact that they are ahead of you.

You have assets that they don’t have, even if you aren’t aware of it. Maybe your travels are allowing you to set your story in several different places, or maybe your everyday job as a teacher is helping you meet many potential readers for your book. Who knows?

If they are your age and in a similar situation, and you think that they are better because they have more talent, then maybe you should read this free article: Where does talent come from? Why isn’t it a prerequisite for success?

It is also possible that they are working in a different way that you do. Ask yourself, what are they doing that I am not doing?

I will give you an example from Rachel’s life. Rachel had a friend with whom they both did digital anime-style art, just that the friend was way more popular. What that friend did differently than Rachel, was:

  • drawing free art for everyone who asked for it;
  • going to anime conventions to meet more people in the niche;
  • asking the newly met people in the niche to like her page on social media;
  • organizing a national drawing contest;
  • signing up to new anime-style art groups to meet even more people;

Are you surprised now that she was more popular than everyone else? Because I’m not! She had a strategy, unlike everyone else. And what strategy does your friend have? In writing, in publishing, in marketing? 

A person who is doing better than us, is a gift for us, so that we can learn from them how to move forwards. 

If we stay envious, we are wasting a great gift given to us by the universe.

When I was in college, I’ve met two people who were exactly what I wanted to be at the time. I looked at their lifestyles and made a choice to live their way, and even though we parted later, I am happy that we met, because they helped me reach an inner truth about whom I wanted to become.

So – if your friend is better than you, observe, and learn from them. And always, always be respectful. There is nothing sadder than taking out your frustration on someone who never did anything bad to you, just because you can’t deal with your own envy. I wrote more about the importance of fair play in this free article.

I hope this helps!

Stay inspired.

Author:

Hi! I am an author. I've published my debut novel in 2015 in Poland ("Dokąd teraz popłynę?"). My main genre is fantasy and magical realism. I often discuss socially difficult topics in my works and try to pass on a message of hope. I am always inspired and I never stop writing. My writing inspirations are Bruno Schulz, Pablo Neruda, Kiran Desai and Haruki Murakami. In my private life I am a polyglot. I believe in the Law Of Attraction and I write about it on UltimateManifester at Wordpress.

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