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How to cope when your friend writes better than you?

Ever felt jealous of your friend who seems to be much more talented at writing then you? Ever questioned your own skills after reading what they had written? Ever wondered if you can ever get to their level, and how? If yes, then this article is for you.

Being in this situation might not feel so great, but it is a blessing in disguise. Here is why:

  • You see area for improvement.
  • You know what exactly work on.
  • You can observe that person’s techniques.
  • You can ask that person for help directly.
  • It’s a great way to motivate yourself to level up.

If you feel envious about your friend writing better than you, it’s probably because you don’t believe that you can achieve that level of skill.

If this is the case, ask yourself why you doubt yourself right now.

Maybe they are older than you, or more experienced, or have been writing in your chosen language since ever. If yes, then you can’t blame yourself for the fact that they are ahead of you.

You have assets that they don’t have, even if you aren’t aware of it. Maybe your travels are allowing you to set your story in several different places, or maybe your everyday job as a teacher is helping you meet many potential readers for your book. Who knows?

If they are your age and in a similar situation, and you think that they are better because they have more talent, then maybe you should read this free article: Where does talent come from? Why isn’t it a prerequisite for success?

It is also possible that they are working in a different way that you do. Ask yourself, what are they doing that I am not doing?

I will give you an example from Rachel’s life. Rachel had a friend with whom they both did digital anime-style art, just that the friend was way more popular. What that friend did differently than Rachel, was:

  • drawing free art for everyone who asked for it;
  • going to anime conventions to meet more people in the niche;
  • asking the newly met people in the niche to like her page on social media;
  • organizing a national drawing contest;
  • signing up to new anime-style art groups to meet even more people;

Are you surprised now that she was more popular than everyone else? Because I’m not! She had a strategy, unlike everyone else. And what strategy does your friend have? In writing, in publishing, in marketing? 

A person who is doing better than us, is a gift for us, so that we can learn from them how to move forwards. 

If we stay envious, we are wasting a great gift given to us by the universe.

When I was in college, I’ve met two people who were exactly what I wanted to be at the time. I looked at their lifestyles and made a choice to live their way, and even though we parted later, I am happy that we met, because they helped me reach an inner truth about whom I wanted to become.

So – if your friend is better than you, observe, and learn from them. And always, always be respectful. There is nothing sadder than taking out your frustration on someone who never did anything bad to you, just because you can’t deal with your own envy. I wrote more about the importance of fair play in this free article.

I hope this helps!

Stay inspired.

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13 absurdities that frustrate every indie author

This is a vent post. I’ve been observing the absurdity in the publishing world for years, and today, I just needed to complain about it. This is the list of phenomena in the publishing world that I just can’t comprehend.


Books without reviews won’t sell, but the team author + family + friends isn’t allowed to review the book because the reviews might be biased. For the same reason, buying book reviews isn’t allowed either. Goodreads is one of the greatest book forums, but they don’t allow sending DMs in which the author or the representatives ask for reviews. Then… How is the author supposed to get reviews, that will later lure other people?

Absurdity no. 2: PICKY BOOK BLOGGERS

Everyone is talking about book bloggers as the best review source out there. However, many book bloggers aren’t interested either in reading a short story by an indie author that is just starting their career  out there. They prefer reviewing popular books because this will make their blog popular. Book bloggers don’t think about helping indies out there. They are writing reviews for themselves.


People are compaining that bookshops are fully of trashy books. However, those same people will say that they don’t like reading difficult books and want something to relax. They will buy the trashy books they complained about and even purchase movie tickets. They are completely unaware that they are the audience which gets to choose what will be popular and what won’t be popular (exactly like book bloggers).

Absurdity no. 4: GREAT BOOK, THREE STARS

Reviewers write “great book” then give it three stars. What does it mean? That they’d like a threesome with the main characters?! Lol.

Absurdity no. 5: NOT JUST SEX, PLEASE…

After “50 Shades Of Grey,” erotica became a fashionable genre. Thousands of Kindle gold miners decided they would write trashy porn… and discovered that erotica readers are as spoiled as everyone else, and want more drama, more character development and, in short words, not just sex.


I find it ridiculous when people who declare themselves to be artists, musicians, game developers and movie directors pirate novels under the excuse “I am starving, too”. If we are all fighting to get other people to buy our stuff, we should give a good example.


I never know what to with these people on Twitter. They thank you for the follow, but don’t follow back. Clearly, they are celebrities who don’t want hang out with other unpopular authors. Such a pity. I would continue following them, but my ratio (“reason” in Latin) is telling me that one-sided relationships just aren’t worth it.


The internet facilitated reader-author connection, and readers have new opportunities to commit faux pas. Since they consider themselves literature gurus, they DM authors, saying that they will give the book a better rating once the author corrects the book according to their advice. Wow.


Not only the majority of authors doesn’t earn enough to buy a cup of coffee, but they also have to beg everyone – family, friends, readers – to take a look at their book. And in the worst case scenario, they have to pay to people to read it, or trick them into reading by smart ways. Are our books really so unwanted? If not, then why is everyone making us feel like this?


Once, I went to a library and asked them if I could organize an author meet-up in there. They said they’d call, but nobody did. I was in the zone, so I decided to ask again in person. The shop clerk was very rude and said: “well, if you didn’t get any answer that’s already an answer, don’t you think?”. I got upset and cursed the place. Two years later they closed due to financial problems. This paragraph is not about M. R. Foti successfully cursing others, but about the disrespect that indie authors have to face. We work so hard, but there are many people who consider indie authors somewhat worse than traditional authors. This is so upsetting, cause we work so incredibly hard to put our books out there.


Lots of blogs will advise you to invest in ads. But when you ask authors if ads worked for them, they’ll always tell you: “the results are never guaranteed, sometimes, it can happen that an ad is completely useless”. If ads doesn’t work, than what will work?

Absurdity no. 12: DUMPING PRICING FOR 1000 WORDS

If you set up reasonable ghost writing prices, it’s difficult to get anything. Why? Because there are thousands of people who will write so much for 1$ only. Dumping prices work for a short while, but in the long run, they are damaging the market. Who will pay 400$ per a novella if they can get it for 40$? The disparities in the world and unequal currency is making normal prices seem ridiculously expensive.


We live in the digital age. There are millions of webpages out there and they all need new content every single day. Everyone can become a publisher, celebrities want their own books, and there is demand for ghost writers. Yet, everyone tells young authors to treat writing as a part time hobby and not to expect any income. We are taught that our hard work is just a hobby, and that we shouldn’t expect to be paid for it. This is so unfair.

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I’m so sorry for today, guys. I’m just frustrated. If you are frustrated, too, feel free to vent under this post. It’s ok for an author to be angry, and speak about it. Thanks!

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Should you publish on a foreign market?

If you are bilingual, you might be considering trying your luck out there in the big, big world. Contrary to what everyone thinks, you don’t need to be accomplished and recognized in your country to make a debut  elsewhere. Read the following check list to see if publishing on foreign markets is a good option for you:

  1. Am I serious enough about writing to venture overseas? Or is writing just a hobby that I am pursuing for personal enjoyment and I don’t care about being published, as long as I can share my writing with closest family and friends?
  2. What are the reasons why I want to switch to international market? Do I want to expand? Do I see no opportunities for my books in my own country, so I am trying abroad?
  3. Who am I writing my books for? If I am writing for a specific audience: are they in my country, or abroad? If I am writing for my friends: do they speak my language or not?
  4. Will my books retain their value after being translated and published in a foreign market? Or do they discuss local matters understable for my nation only? Does the language play a vital role as a part of this book, or is merely a tool I’ve used? Can it be replaced?
  5. Can I speak the language of the foreign market? Will I translate the books myself? Or will I ask someone else to help me? Am I able to communicate with fans on my own?
  6. What do I know about the foreign market? Do I have in mind a specific publishing house? Do I know where I will be doing marketing? Do I have an idea how to find target audience abroad if I failed to do it in my own country? Do I have friends who will help me promote the book abroad?
  7. What are the costs of moving my “writing property”? How many books have I finished and published? Do I still have the property rights? If yes, what would be the costs of translation, editing and re-publishing? What about the series that I have started? Are my fans likely to continue reading in another language?
  8. Have I carefully compared the pros and cons of moving? Which option is more appealing to me? Where do I see myself more successful than I am today?

There are the most important questions that come to my mind. If you are still unsure, you are not alone. It took me 2-3 months to make a decision. I don’t regret.

Here is my story if you are interested:

I am Polish and my local book market is Poland. In Polish bookshops you can find translated Amazon bestsellers (majority of books) and works by famous Polish authors (minority of books).

Works written by unknown Polish indies are automatically rejected by traditional Polish publishers. The only option is to hire an agent, but they are costly and can’t guarantee success.  Self-publishing attempts are disrespected and ignored by readers, who still believe that bestseller = bestwritten. There isn’t really a good place to do marketing, as most Polish people use English websites which are international.

I had a friend, with whom we were initially helping each other. But she was so desperate to break through this glass ceiling, that she started seeing me as a rival and acting against me and my writing. When I discovered it, I felt betrayed, angry and disgusted to the point of nausea. For a moment I just wanted to throw in the towel.

I had enough of dealing with this misery. It made me feel I had no talent. I really believed I had no talent. But then I thought to myself, it can’t end this way. People out there are succeeding; so why can’t I? 

Solution started to crystallize in my head after reading articles by Michal Stawicki, Joanna Penn and Jeff Goins. I had a revelation: I could still make it with writing. Just not in my country.

Which meant I had to forsake my mother language and switch to English. I thought that it would be easy – I’ve been learning English for 18 years. As it turned out, not enough. I encountered lots of problems when I started writing. I spent a lot of time digging in dictionaries and reading grammar rules. However, my writing retained its worth in terms of content and I am sure that I will reach the target audience at last.

If you have a situation similar to mine, then my advice is: don’t hesitate. Try somewhere, where outside conditions are more favorable.

I hope this helps, stay inspired.

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Should you write in another language?

One of things that causes most confusion and chaos in my life is my nationality/ethnicity. You may know already that I’m half Polish, half Italian; and I married into a Chinese family. I have friends in Hungary, South Korea, Thailand, Pakistan, India, Mexico, Peru… and other countries. Everyone wanted to read something I wrote, and I was always like “oh, but it’s in Polish”. In November 2017 I made a brave choice to turn into an international writer – and write in English.

But even though I’ve been learning this for like 18 years, all editors I’ve worked in, sweat over my work – and then, double the price. A reader said so about an edited story: “all sentences and words are used correctly, but this story feels like it was written in another language, and then translated.”

I try to think in English, but apparently my Polish way of thinking is affecting the way I construct sentences.

I can’t think of an example in English, but I’ll give you an example on how my Polish affects my Chinese. In Polish, we have the word “zaraz”. Zaraz can mean “right away” or “in a moment” – but a moment can last very long, depending on the situation. So zaraz can also be translated as “later” or “much later”.

In Chinese, a word that means “right away” would be 马上 mǎshàng. But mǎshàng means things happeing instantly – we can use it when we want to say “at once”, “staight away”, “immediately”. It can’t be used as “much later.”

Still, because I translated the Polish word “zaraz” into the Chinese word “mǎshàng”, I keep using mǎshàng in the wrong way. For example, my boss told me to do something. I wanted to reply that I will do it later and I said “mǎshàng”. A minute later he asked me: “why aren’t you doing it yet?”. This was when I realized I was making a mistake.

The same is happening when I am writing in English. I wondered whether I shouldn’t ask some English literature professor to give me extra lessons. I asked a trusted person if it was a good idea. She said:

“You’d have to live for 20 years in the UK or America. Just get a good editor. This Polish-English mix is something that makes your style unique.”

And you know what? I think it’s the best advice out there, if you are planning to write in another language. Just ask yourself if you truly feel confident enough in your language ability – here is a checklist:

  • What sounds like a better option to me: writing in my mother language and have someone else translate, or writing in this language and have someone else edit my work?
  • Have I ever tried writing in this language?
  • Am I fully fluent with this language?
  • Am I able to express complex thoughts with this language?
  • Am I willing to spend time researching new words and synonyms?
  • Am I ready to constantly learn this language to improve myself?
  • Am I able to read works in this language, including  classical, academic and formal writing?
  • Do I want to commit to use this language every single day to become even better at it?
  • How does the use of this language change my unique style?
  • Am I satisfied with how my writing feels in the new language?
  • Does this language liberate me as an author, or does it limit me?

Let’s stop for a moment on the last question.

We have already talked about the foreign language limiting us – mostly because of our imperfect language skills.

But, using a foreign language can liberate our minds and helps us write things that we wouldn’t have courage to write in our mother tongue. (Related article: Break your self-imposed limitations, not the writing principles)

From my experience as a polyglot, it always affects me more when somebody talks to me in Polish, rather than when they talk to me in any other language (no matter how well I speak it). Of course, I understand what other people are trying to say, but the emotional effect on my mind is much less than it would be as if they spoke in Polish.

What do we learn from that?

Well, if you have a taboo that you can’t write about in your mother tongue, a foreign language can really liberate you. I can’t write romantic scenes in Polish. I will stop after every sentence and wonder if it’s not too strong. In English, I don’t have this problem at all. This is because the English words don’t affect me as much.

Languages are an incredibly interesting topic, and a passion that I had to give up in order to dedicate my time to becoming a professional author.

I think that the choice of language in which we write is incredibly important, but at the end of the day, what matters is what we want to say, and not if we say it imperfectly. 

Stay inspired!

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How to properly refuel your creativity, when original inspiration sources don’t work anymore and you have a novel to finish?

What do you do when the flames in your fireplace die out and you are planning to stay up for the night? Obviously, you have to add wood.

Same goes with your creativity. If you feel it’s burning out, you must add some fuel.

Now… What kind of fuel you use matters more than you think.

Do you know that it is possible to light fires in all colors of the rainbow thanks to chemistry? If you use boric acid, your fire will be green. If you use a non-toxic potassium compound, your fire will be purple. And if you burn plastic, it’s not going to burn well.

Why am I talking about it?

Because your fuel choices for writing should be dictated by the type of inspiration you are trying to obtain. If you want to feel inspired for fantasy – you must use fantasy as a fuel.

One of the reasons why people can’t finish their books is, they use the wrong fuel for inspiration.

They have purple fire in the fireplace, but instead of buying fuel for purple fire, they use the fuel for green fire. Obviously – the fire becomes green. Instead of being inspired for fantasy, they inspired themselves for non-fiction. This will very likely make them abandon the fantasy topic and start writing non-fiction.

If you fuel with recipe books, you can’t write a crime! Unless your master chef chooses to stab his victim with a kebab skewer. Which I guess wasn’t your main idea.

Now let’s talk about plastic as a fuel for our inspiration.

Plastic is a topic that sounds nice and maybe even appeals to us, but when we try to write it, just doesn’t work.


A pacifist reads a gripping murder mystery, which inspires them to write one, too. They plan the story and start researching poisons and weapons. However, violence grosses them out so much, that they actually can’t turn their heroes into murderers.

This is my case. Kazutaka Kodaka, Gōshō Aoyama, Joe Alex and Agatha Christie all make me want to write a murder mystery full of plot twists. But… this inspiration is plastic, cause I can’t write crime novels, and besides, I’m more for writing that promotes peace.

I think I will write a crime novel one day – I have plot and character ideas in my head that just won’t let me go. But right now, reading or watching anything with detectives is only fueling my creativity with plastic. It’s not gonna “burn” into writing, cause there are too many things that block me – for example, lack of skills required by the genre.

Now, let’s discuss creative fire.

Yes! There is such a thing as creative fire! It’s the opposite of the creative burnout.

Creative fire happens when you have added so much fuel to your creativity furnace that you are itching to start writing, and once you start writing, you will be writing until physical tiredness. The creative fire will keep on burning, allowing you to write massive amounts of high quality text in short periods of time.

Making creative fire is easy. You just need to refuel a lot with the right type of fuel and prevent yourself from writing for some time. After a while, you will be faster than a novel writing machine – I promise!

I will tell you now, how I learned the lesson about refueling creativity properly.

When I was 11, I was a fan of Code Lyoko. It’s an old French cartoon about kids who were fighting a computer virus in  digital world. I used to read a very popular fanfiction about it. This fanfiction had over 150 episodes, or maybe even more. The author wrote very often, almost every day, or every three days at most. I wondered, how she author managed to stay inspired for such a long time, and then I noticed that newest episodes were showing up each day in the afternoon, after Code Lyoko was aired on our local TV. I developed a theory, that the author was able to keep writing her fanfiction for so long, cause she was constantly inspired with the right kind of fuel.

Later, I observed other fanfiction writers. I’ve noticed that it was very easy for people to write about a certain topic if:

  • They were genuinely interested in it;
  • They found other people genuinely interested in it;
  • Those other people also wrote fanfictions about it;

Problems started when the topic became stale to most people who were interested into it.

I will give you another example:

D.N.Angel was an anime about phantom thieves with wings that gathered quite a lot of fans. However, since there wasn’t a second series of it, many fans abandoned it and turned to other things that inspired them.

As long as you can find something that will replace your original source of inspiration, that had already run out, you don’t need to worry.

My fanfiction about D.N.Angel is still somewhere in my writing folder, unfinished. I remember I really loved this story and I let it go with a heavy heart. If I could turn back in time to talk to my older self as a more experienced writer, I would just stay: “read books about angels, girl, and the inspiration will be back in an instant.”

And this is the thing that I want you to remember from this post.

Learn to use different sources to refuel your writing inspiration;  use sources that are connected to what you want to write, and when a source stops inspiring you, find another one. And it will be fine.

I hope this helps.

Stay inspired!